When marriage inevitably ends, divorce normally follows. Well, it usually does, at least. For one woman, it was much harder to do than she expected. Not only did her husband decide that he didn’t want to be a part of their marriage anymore, he completely abandoned her without any word.
Ashley McGuire took to social media, hoping to find out where her husband had disappeared to. “Last year, when I was pregnant with our youngest baby he decided being a husband and a dad wasn’t the lifestyle he wanted anymore and he ghosted, like gone without a trace. He’s moved somewhere out of state and changed his phone number.”
Getting Help
Thankfully, people on the internet are resourceful and immediately began their detective work. There were so many people looking for him that McGuire had to preface her intentions, “I sincerely appreciate all of your support, but please do not make threats, spread hate, or try to go out and locate him.”
Despite her husband abandoning her and her child, she was still decent enough to stress that he shouldn’t be harassed in any way.
This isn’t the first time a boyfriend or husband has run out on their partner. There’s even a Facebook group called “Are We Dating The Same Guy,” where woman are notified if they are dating potential unfaithful partners.
McGuire was right to preface her request for help by saying that her husband shouldn’t be affected by the outreach.
Experts Weigh In
Brad Fulton, an associate professor of management and social policy at Indiana University, shared some of his thoughts – “Sharing sensitive information that a person intended to keep private can adversely impact that person’s mental health, and it can put them at risk of being harassed, bullied or harmed physically.” Fulton also expressed the concern that family problems and secrets were a lot less likely to be shared outside of the house before social media was a thing. Now, in just seconds, a spouse or even child can express their displeasure or explain what kind of situation is unfolding in their home to thousands, if not millions.
Erica Chito-Childs, senior associate dean of the College of Arts & Sciences at Hunter College, stressed that people love to get involved in messy lives, if not just for entertainment. “We love to partake in other’s messy lives. Partly because it makes us feel better about our own lives and/or it resonates with what we are adamantly for or against, thanks to the ever more accurate algorithms.”
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