Not much feels worse than being cheated on… except being cheated on in pregnancy, I suppose.
Pregnancy is already so physically and mentally challenging for the woman that it’s awful to even imagine also enduring the news of finding out the child’s father has been seeing another. Here you are carefully carrying his spawn, enduring nausea and constant bodily changes and here he is, having the time of his life with someone else.
Being cheated on, period, is soul-crushing, confusing, and even infuriating, and understandably so. It’s likely you love your significant other and that love comes with admiration and respect. When you admire someone else and they opt to hurt you, you’ll find yourself questioning your self-worth as a result. Don’t do this to yourself. The decision to cheat, no matter how stable or unstable your relationship was, lies solely on your significant other.
If possible, keep your pregnancy very separate from your romantic relationship. Your baby can feel your stress and emotions, so try to limit how intensely you allow the situation to impact you emotionally. It’s okay to be hurt, but you’re also feeling for two now.
It takes a rather questionable man to cheat on his woman, period, but at a time when she is enduring one of the most physical, emotionally challenging times of her life, on his behalf, and one for which he’s half responsible, well, that sort of man deserves not one more second of your attention.
If he wishes to reconcile, do not justify doing so simply because you need the financial or residential support. You have friends, family, and a court system to reply upon instead.
Do not also justify a reconciliation with a claim that your child deserves a father. This is beyond true, but being a father is not synonymous with being your significant other. Co-parenting is 100% doable.
It’s time to put the best interest of both you and your child above your relationship status. You both deserve better.